Queer Questions

For those of you who use the term "butt-load" to refer to a lot of something, you may be surprised to hear that there is an actual unit of measure called a "butt-load".  Apparently, it is approximately 126 gallons.  However, when you are using it in the context of Barney Frank, Anderson Cooper, or Freddie Mercury, it may have a completely different connotation.  

Growing up in an extremely conservative home, in an ultra conservative state, I was raised with a low tolerance for any kind of homosexual activity.  It was barely surpassed by murder as the most grievous sin one could commit.  It wasn't until I moved to California that I at least made an attempt to understand the background of the most despicable of lifestyles.  That attempt came to an abrupt end when a gay man held me at knifepoint.  

Now that I live in what is widely considered the most conservative place in America, I'm willing to make another attempt at understanding so that I can make the giant leap from tolerance to acceptance.  I just need a few questions answered.  

1.  Why are lesbians attracted to other women who look like men?

2.  Why are gay men attracted to other gay men who dress like women? 

3.  Props to the brilliant gay engineer who quadrupled the seating capacity in the gay bar simply by turning the stools upside down.  However, the gay scientist who decided that being gay is an inherent quality they were born with has some explaining to do.  Being born with a certain quality would infer that it is a hereditary trait.  Under basic Darwinistic theory, survival of the fittest, homosexuals would be deemed "unfit" for survival.  Therefore, under genetic theory, that gene would become so recessive that it would eventually be nonexistent.

4.  What is up with the "lithp"?  I cannot say I have ever met a woman, who is attracted to men, talk with such poor articulation–so why should a man who is attracted to men speak with such poor enunciation?

5.  How is the flamboyance supposed to encourage a more broad acceptance of homosexuality?  I find it annoyingly revolting.  Peacocks use a flamboyant display in an attempt to attract the opposite sex.  The colors are symbolically cohesive, while the motives are quite different.  

6.  Forget the square peg in the round hole analogy.  A more appropriate analogy would be the square peg in a round peg.  It makes no geometrical sense.  

Since the view on this topic is essentially split,  there should be plenty readers who can make sense of the rainbow movement.  Any kind of logical input would be greatly appreciated.